By Kate Amber, MSc, Founder of End Coercive Control USA Key Takeaway:This week, Donald Trump’s escalating attacks and desperate deflections are textbook examples of how character-disordered coercive controllers unravel when their false narratives collapse. As the public begins to see behind the mirage, the tactics of DARVO and truth manipulation become more frantic—and more transparent. […]
Disclaimer: It is important to acknowledge that not all victims of coercive control are women, and not all coercive controllers are men. People of all genders can experience or perpetrate coercive control. However, statistically and according to extensive research, the harms of coercive control are predominantly, and most dangerously, inflicted against women. This reality is […]
Kate Amber, MSc Posted on: September 17, 2025 The recent assassination of Charlie Kirk has sent shockwaves through the nation, not only for the tragic loss of life but also for the disturbing patterns of coercive control that have emerged in the aftermath. As the founder of The Quicksand Model® and a lifelong supporter of ending coercive […]
Examining How Government Officials Deploy Classic Coercive Control Tactics in the Wake of Leaked Military Communications
As a survivor, researcher, and consultant in the field of coercive control, I've dedicated my career to understanding and combating the insidious tactics used by coercive controllers to manipulate and dominate others. Today, we find ourselves facing a stark reality: the strategies of coercive control, as outlined in The Quicksand Model®, transcend personal relationships and […]
In the political landscape, power dynamics are always in play, but what happens when these dynamics shift from the usual tug-of-war into the realm of coercive control? As we reflect on Trump's time in office, we see parallels between his tactics and strategies and the pattern often seen in intimate relationships characterized by coercive control. […]
Coercive Control Through the Lens of The Quicksand Model®
As Founder & Chief Visionary Officer of End Coercive Control USA (ECCUSA), I am deeply concerned about the recent viral video depicting a woman being forcefully removed from a town hall meeting. This disturbing incident serves as a unique systemic example of the insidious tactic known as DARVO. DARVO, one of the coercive controller's weapons in The Quicksand […]
Introduction to The Quicksand Model of Coercive Control The Quicksand Model of Coercive Control, developed by (me) Kate Amber and utilized by End Coercive Control USA, is a survivor-centered, trauma-informed framework that explains the layered tactics and strategies coercive controllers use to entrap and dominate their targeted victims. This model categorizes coercive control tactics and […]
Double Speak - Coercive Controller's Weaponization of Language: An Analysis of JD Vance's Tweet Using The Quicksand Model® of Coercive Control In the complex landscape of political discourse, language often serves as a powerful tool for shaping perceptions and influencing public opinion. The recent tweet by J.D. Vance, U.S. Vice President, provides a compelling case […]
